These Tik Toks are HATE CRIMES

Go and talk set in civil rights back a decade or to this side of tiktok consists of black people marginalizing themselves for white affection .

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And after subjecting myself to hours worth of content , I was just gonna make one cool cringe compilation and call it a day until I conducted some interviews that changed the trajectory of this video .

I realized that I had some prejudice for interracial couples and unfortunately , I'm not in the minority .

So now we have to use the N word .

You know what I'm about to say it .

No one .

I talked to TB an Afro Canadian that's been dating interracially for years .

And this is all her auntie called me the N word and like no one reacted except me .

And then I spoke to block a black woman who got plenty of true tea from her days of dating interracially .

My primary partner is Mexican and Palestinian .

I date interracially but I'm never thinking , oh , I got me a white boy but everything changed after I spoke to an interracial couple and it hasn't been a completely smooth road for , for me and us .

I guess as a couple it is not .

There have been some things in terms of like , uh , race and , uh , uh , like politics that I have had to challenge you on before .

And then you were like , yeah , yeah , you , you , you , you , you took the oath , you took the , let's start at the start .

I thought that this was patient Zero , my boyfriend hall .

So this is the one that I have .

I purchased This 11 thing that I love about this one is he can literally do anything , fix anything .

And I mean , look at him but Bree put me on to something that was even worse .

Did you ever see this thing on tiktok called the Hashtag Masa Challenge something ?

This NASA , this is the thing .

This is the thing .

At first , I thought this was one race play thing , right ?

And not send me to some ptsd that I have for my race play , going wrong story .

But before I expose what are the most embarrassing moments of my life , if you ain't know what race play is and you want to search it up ?

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Not no king chairman , right ?

But Lord , when the king come knocking at my door unsolicited like a Jehovah witness , I take a shoe , it was leg day and you know , I don't miss legs and I noticed that this old man that musty escaped the geriatric ward just lurking around the squat rock because apparently I still look warm and friendly when I listening to converge lifting £200 on a Bulgarian split squad , not as I will be talking about .

So mentally , I gotta prepare my script .

No , I actually don't play football .

Yes , I I do know my father but I was surprised when this old man asked me to put on a 45 plate on .

I say let me find out that Horace Cracker is a lag .

God .

I'm going down to the locker room to do my mandatory pump assessment .

My bros and Jim bros know what's going on and let me tell you something .

Y'all know that annoying boy from , hey Arnold , that has been sneaking up on Helga .

That was never crack up what I'd give for legs like yours , Sonny .

I , I appreciate it .

See you back in my day .

I used to be a young bull just like you .

You folks sure do inspire me .

Thank you , senior .

I appreciate that .

You know , I hope that I , I'm in shape like you when I get your age , you sure are a stand up fella .

What are you doing for some supper ?

Ah , you , you mean dinner ?

I actually fast at night .

Oh , sucks .

Well , let me get your tents and I'll give you a ring for brunch sometime .

Now .

You know your boy foreign .

You know , I come from a place where ancestral veneration is very important .

I ain't gonna tell this old man to take a rusty biscuit back to the old folks home .

That a me I'm gonna take his number and I'm never gonna reply to him , but I guess that's my fault because I gave this man the impression that I had the intention of going to brunch with him when I would rather pry a chew toy from Clifford .

The Dam Red dog .

So I go back to the dorm room ready to bury my face in this pillow and then my phone ring and guess who it is .

Never crack me alone .

You don't know .

I ain't answering doc .

But as soon as the phone stop ringing , the text start coming and taking into account the time of night and the frequency of the text , I knew that this was a horny decks .

Never Crocker .

Say I hope this isn't too forward but me and the missus would love to host you for an evening of fun .

I was in denial .

I ain't gonna lie .

I I was hoping that this boy was talking about a bingo night that I get with notification , right ?

One attachment for my message .

Oh Jesus from the thumbnail alone .

I knew what was going on .

The curiosity was killing me .

So I had to open it up .

It was a video I click on this video , right ?

This boy , I assume this is his wife on this .

Y'all getting excavated like Minecraft by one obsidian skin black .

But what I was most taken aback by was the grams had the arms like far too much to function .

An uncomfortable amount of arms .

I ain't gonna lie .

I have to embark that in therapy .

Anyway , whoever was filming in was inside the closet like not metaphorically literally inside the closet .

I could see the hangers and to make matters worse .

Lord , this boy tilt the phone and all I see is this boy shaking his off like he trying to go and light on fire .

I never block a number so quick in my 19 years at the time , this was my unfortunate introduction .

The and I wish that it was the last , but this was just the first time that I got this proposal .

If you've watched this tiktok or F D's video on objectifying black men , then you , you know that this is a tool day .

My views on race play have transformed .

I don't , I don't think that there's a problem with it .

So long as it's between consent and adults , sexual exploration is something that I firmly believe in .

But to the point that it does not encroach on another person's liberty .

And unfortunately , in these dynamics , it's the person of color that tokes the Lord .

Hold on I don't like .

But the fact that Crocker was comfortable enough to come to me , a strange big black man with a beard that he don't know from Tyrone flicking Woodley .

Stop telling me that he is a veteran cop .

He's like the Epstein of Cox .

And guess what ?

That's where the line between sexual exploration and exploitation is crumbled over , sauntered over like slicing , see biscuit and I could take the pasties the task all day .

I mean , that's what my youtube channel is all about , but I am more interested in the mindset and the perspectives of the black folks that are subjugated in the cases .

A lot of the times consenting in the boyfriend hall , the black man is literally being commodified by this blonde woman .

That's the stick .

That's what's supposed to be funny .

And I can imagine if this was outrage bait and I mean , if it is , it works because I hear yapping about it .

But regardless of it being bait or not , the dangers are still real .

All I could think about was why would a black man willingly consent to being commodified when he knows the history of him being commodified ?

But to stake on this was extremely illuminating being a black man in an interracial relationship before these instances of racism don't matter under the case of love .

Just like when you're so close to the camera that you can't make out the details of my face .

It's the same issue when you're so close to your partner that you can't make out the flaws in the relationship .

Does the black man in this tiktok even know that he's being maligned or does he brush it off and claim that it's just a joke and instead of the people making noise about it , actually just snowflakes is giving Tom from the boondocks .

But like said that it's love that makes you see , what about those arrangements that don't involve love ?

What is the appeal to black folks of this type of race play outside the context of love of someone that , you know , isn't taking advantage of you .

I do think a lot of black men are into that , that degree of racial fetishism .

And I think a big part of it is because for a lot of black men , whether this person is racist or not or is repulsed by you or not , either way they get to fuck like a classic stereotype about black men is that they are just always horny , sexually aggressive into almost anything da da da da da .

And that's part of the whole BBC men dingo shit , right ?

And for a lot of black men , especially black men who exist in predominantly non-black spaces or spend a lot of time in those spaces , they kind of experience a little bit of like social rejection because they are black men .

And so sometimes you have someone who's turning to you and saying , you know what you got that BBC , that's what I'm interested in .

And it feels affirming the situation where you otherwise experienced rejection .

Over 20% of black men , 22 to 64 are poor as are some 28% of black men over 65 in the United States .

That means that not many black men are able to perform patriarchy financially .

This manifesting courtship on partnership practices like taking someone out on a date or buying them a gift as romance .

I want to pay for this .

I want to pay for that I want to pay for the meals .

I wanna do this just to kind of surmount that wage gap .

There's also the social stratification dynamic at play where historically black men have been shown as inferior in comparison to white men .

That's the systemic obstacles in the way of black men trying to redeem themselves in the dating field end up being extremely limited .

One way that we've been able to excel has been artistically sexually and athletically , which are typically tethered together .

And we've historically excelled in these arenas so much that it has become a road map for black men to patriarchy to the point where our parents would groom us to be adept in these arenas simply for survival .

Ergo .

We e internalize that and that turns into black fetishization .

Sometimes black men like to be fetishized and that's not inherently a bad thing because it reinforces their masculinity .

That's one of the driving factors of society that like black men can like consistently go to which reinforces their masculinity .

The black , the black masculine aspect .

Is there anything inherently wrong with someone trying to affirm their gender ?

Because I'd be lying if I told you I only work out and fight for health reasons .

One of the reasons I like being athletic is because I like to be perceived as athletic .

But performing these gender binaries can and do many times go wrong .

Jesus .

OK .

Everything .

I'm OK .

I'm OK .

Thank you .

I'm OK .

I'm OK .

This boy is so giddy for patriarchy points that he is willing to look past the ization .

He really sees him being groped as praise rather than predation .

And maybe that would be fine behind closed doors , but not for a tiktok that is going to be broadcast to millions of people which perpetuates a narrative that this is acceptable behavior for black men .

It's basically saying , yeah , come grab me up , come feel me up because that's the same attitude that breeds a never cracker to my frosty .

The snowman folk them .

Listen , I know you all mean well , when you're trying to show you all appreciation for black people , right ?

But don't let , don't hop on that .

I love you black men .

I love you man .

I love you man .

I love you .

I love you man .

I love you .

I love you man .

I love you man .

I love you man .

I love you black man .

I love you man .

I love you man .

I love you black man .

I love you black man .

I love you black man .

Black man , love you .

There's this tendency for white liberals in particular to overcompensate for their biases and end up being extremely fetish when you come up to me and say , oh I love dark skin , y'all skin is so smooth .

Listen , man .

Listen , I don't like that .

I don't like that .

Most of the white women here think that Winston is sexier and even worse news for white men .

They say that he's better in bed .

So is that why white women prefer black men ?

The skin , the skin , it's so lovely , black skin against white skin , lovely skin .

Not like black men's skin .

What's the difference in black men's skin ?

If they look after it , it's so soft .

It's like chocolate , physically gorgeous .

But I can't , it's a physical thing .

Black men are definitely better in bed .

They treat you right .

They take their time over you where white men won't , they're too quick to get there and get it over with .

Now you could tell this video was a blast from the back of the bus , right ?

But things like this is still going on to this day .

It's a very fine line between appreciating blackness , un fetishizing blackness .

And when your fetishism takes you to partnering up with a black person , pigs get ugly real quick .

But then she was following like all these interracial pages .

She was always sending me photos of like mixed babies .

She was like she was following the East family like I was like , no man , no man .

Well , that was like my first relationship and I was very , I wasn't , I wasn't really religious but I do have religious trauma .

So it was the first time I had with the girl , like the intercourse experience with the girl and like it was the first time I like really opened up with the girl .

So imagine one of the most formative experiences of someone's life and that being a product of racial feta .

Imagine something subsequent experiences after the dot Imagine one's sexual self off the dot And not just the dangers for black men , but we all know the brunt of these dangers all felt by black women .

I think it's scarier for me than it is for a black man because when I think of someone racial fetishizing me , I'm thinking of , you know , the way that I have sex , which is , you know , I the receiver and you know , and , and that's scary to me .

It's really scary to me to be in a situation where I'm with someone who racially fetishize me because I'm disempowered in that situation , cuck oldie bullshit , right ?

Where there's a white couple who , you know , wants to get a big black man to go fuck the , the white wife .

And so then the white guy jerks off in the corner .

It's the whole thing even in that situation , even though in a way the white couple is indeed dominating this black man .

This black man can kind of convince himself that he's in a position of power .

He's in a position where he's sticking it to the , the white man literally .

And despite the tangible dangers , the black women faced in these dynamics , there's a very vocal minority .

I vowed not to discuss them due to the misogyny wall that runs romping online .

And the fact that this space right here that you're in is a safe space for black women .

But that's actually the reason why I feel as though this needs to be discussed .

Stars that let's go bitch I try should get the bag .

So the bag off , this ain't even satire .

I like I don't know how much or if she was paid for this , but she wasn't paid enough .

A recent phenomenon has been observed that has the black community up in arms .

And that is the notion that most of the desirable and eligible black men that are in the United States are dating and marrying outside of their race .

The black men that I I've been interested in and have pursued just magically can never make time to pursue me .

But being able to make a lot of time for white partners , Asian partners , non-black partners , like I had a situation with this guy .

He would contact me and , you know , express interest in me .

And so I said , all right , well , let's go out on a date , which is already not really the way that I like to do things because usually I like for men to ask me out and then he magically didn't make it to the bar .

He stood me up .

This is the last time in my life .

Actually , I've ever been stood up .

He had this complicated story , somebody got sick .

I was like , OK , whatever , it's probably bullshit .

And then midnight comes around , oh , you know , I'm free now .

My friend's OK .

Would it be OK if I came over and gave you a hug ?

It's very uncommon in the spaces that I'm in to see a black man who's in a relationship with a black woman um in a way where that black woman is prioritized the black men that I've been very interested in , who have expressed interest in me often only have time for um quick short sexual um experiences .

And not to say that there aren't a lot of , you know , men who aren't black who also feel that way .

But I have a longer history of having long term relationships with white men as a black woman , especially as a black trans woman that you're just not going to ever be as valuable to um a black man as even the most basic of a white woman .

Honestly , according to news Week , 43% of African American women between the ages of 30 and 34 have never been married .

Putting aside the fact that sometimes statistics can be misleading and polyamory is a thing .

Marriage is not the only indicator of a happy romantic life as well as the fact that outside of the United States , most black people are marrying other black people .

I'm in the Bahamas where the status quo is pretty much a black person with another black person .

But at the same time , black women are talking with one another and they're taking notes sharing them as well on their grievances with black men .

Black men are broke , they're violent , they don't take care of their kids .

Black men don't have collectively a lot of wealth .

You don't have a lot of wealth , they cheating , they uneducated .

The list goes on .

So an amalgamation of scorn due to the seeming refusal of black women from black men with the enduring criticism of black men from black women .

And the fact that we now have social media as a grounds for people to come together .

This has given the rise to the investment community which are typically in short black women encouraging other black women to date outside of their race .

I watch a lot of that content and you know , a lot of it is kind of speaking directly to black women who are raised only to date black men who are told that dating outside of your race is , you know , the worst thing you could possibly do and encouraging them to widen their options to not limit themselves to just black men so frequently .

Um women are shamed out of making good choices for themselves .

And sometimes um some black women do need to hear that .

Maybe a good choice for you is to widen your dating pool to include more than just black men on the surface .

This sounds like sound advice from black women to black women and spaces where black women could speak to other black women about the issues that they face uniquely are extremely important .

But what's also important is looking at the entirety of the context because they , there is an intersection where the investment community and coon talk merge that is home to some very questionable dates .

I just because of my dating history , definitely think that the idea that white men are the solution um is misle , it's misled , you know , it's not true .

I've had a lot of very tumultuous relationships with white men .

And so I know that by virtue of them being white does not make them better partners .

And I do think that in a lot of ways it does come off very white supremacist .

I'm not gonna list all kinds of examples where white supremacy is pretty much being spot by black women in these spaces because I don't see what it's done to my elders .

And I like to learn from their mistakes .

But it doesn't take long for you to stumble upon certain parts of the investment community and see that they resemble white supremacist , right ?

Wings .

I don't know .

This investment thing makes again .

I said I'm gonna say it a lot , but it makes me sad .

It makes me sad .

You don't have to date a white guy .

You don't have to seek like this high value man .

Like it's Michael Mick doesn't exist like you don't have to do that .

I guess it makes me kind of sad too in the same way that man stuff makes me kind of sad as easily as one could fall down the holes of the mona .

You could also fall victim to right wing rhetoric disguised as divestment .

It starts with the T channels , then it moves on to the black women and luxury channel that put forth a femininity prototype that did not have black people in mind when it was made on black women have endured so much trauma from black men .

The divestment community can seem like a way out of what can be a very tumultuous dating life .

But the reality is no relationship is the highlight reel that these divestment spaces show .

It often is very uncomfortable and hard work , which can often be harder in interracial spaces .

Partners specifically in your own race , in terms of blackness and proximity , you guys could talk about things pertaining to white supremacy and really draw a lot of parallels , you know , and like overall , it's just some things that you can't do in white spaces , which I was in my whole life .

So just having a black girlfriend really kind of benefited me in that aspect .

You know , that being said , the obstacles that mix couples face are not insurmountable .

And I believe the relationships like Brie and Jed are proof concept despite them disclaiming that they are not power gones of a perfect interracial relationship .

Dirt Floyd wasn't even the first time that we were in a relationship when someone black was murdered you know , there was Tamir Rice , there was Trayvon and I didn't really have too many black friends to talk about this stuff with .

So , you know , I confided in you and then like you learned , yeah , I'll , I'll , I'll , I'll be honest , I'll hold the l that I was like , pretty ignorant on a lot of the context .

I ain't gonna lie .

I was surprised to hear Jed's level of accountability .

No offense to Jad .

Because many partners , I myself struggle with accountability and the type of accountability that he's accounting for is difficult .

Not many people are trying to do that .

And when I asked him how he forged that mindset , he claimed that his status as an immigrant in the United States helped him see Bree's point of view for me .

I felt like it was a lot easier for me to get there because it was a lot easier for me to sympathize with Brianna's experience as a black person in the United States and my experience as a first generation immigrant .

Do you understand that ?

Like , you benefit from a lot of things because your immigrant status is kind of like secret .

Like when you walk into a room , you're just a white dude .

But when they hear you the day , people don't know .

And I love that , Bree feels safe enough to challenge Jad transgressions in mixed company that tells me that there's extensive work being had behind the scenes to the point where they're comfortable discussing what many of us would see his dirty laundry in a public video and I appreciate how transparent they were about the conflicts .

I'll just be transparent about one of the instances like Zootopia had just came out .

Ok .

That's man .

I ruined this movie for when I first met him .

He was like , that's a good side .

Tell me how you didn't realize that them *** was cops in Zootopia .

I didn't really like that .

Um The predators were basically a stand in for minority people .

And the message ultimately was just like , yeah , if you are a brown just become a cop and everything will be better at the end .

And that's what it felt like to me .

And then , and then you told me that you were like , I don't know , I think you're just kind of like , like , why are you looking for something that's not even there ?

Like you're just kind of making a big deal out of nothing .

And then I got really offended .

I was like , excuse me , what do you mean ?

And then I cried in the car and then I was like , I can't , I was like , how , how am I supposed to ?

I can't talk about these things with my boyfriend and you're making me feel bad about this .

And then you were like , I'm so sorry .

Oh , you're the sweet as fuck .

You took the bare minimum and had common sense .

That's like , it's common sense to just be and nice and not be a dick .

That's what I was talking about because I was trying to figure out why it was so easy for me to do that kind of thing .

And that's where a lot of the , the overlap of uh like the immigrant community , the first an immigrant community and like the black community , if you watch these videos , then you know that cartoons and Jess entertainment and the fact that Bree said that she's in a , a white community where she doesn't have many black friends .

Her day to day is probably riddled with microaggressions and home ought to be a refuge from the volatility of public discourse , which is why it's so important that Jed can be helped peace while simultaneously working through his own biases because they are unique battles that interracial couples face internally and externally , we've been together for a long enough time and we are now engaged .

So any kind of semblance of it being like a dude from the neighborhood that we're high school students that we're now in high school .

Um I can't remember like , we , we kind of like passed each other at the park and ended up kind of talking for like a minute or two .

And like , he pretty candidly asked me like , does , does it feel different ?

It like ?

And you , I'm not even there , why are you asking ?

This is me ?

How am I supposed to ?

I don't even have reference .

This is the type of things they gotta deal with in person , people that , you know , meeting you with micro and macro aggressions and then there's the genuine curiosity but nothing comes closer then vitriol online from strangers .

You don't even know .

Uh Honestly , I got like , scared seeing both you and talk about this because I was scared that it was gonna be like cringe compilation of interracial couples and like just kind of going like , oh look at those fucking weirdos over there and and but at the same time , I trusted both of you because like I like I was like afraid but I also like had that trust of like I enjoy the content of these two men and I know there will be nuance here .

I I love my black people and I love being black , but I do see a lot of like vitriol at mixed couples , mixed white and black couples by uh by uh other black people .

There are couples like us who are just trying to vibe and not really deal with all that bullshit black people that date mono racially black people that date interracially and interracial couples themselves are all victims of the affliction that is talk and this is an endemic to the black and white dynamic because if you watch this video that I did with Olivia Son , you know that a lot of the times when race is discussed , especially in the United States , they ain't talking about the rest of the spectrum .

They talking about black and white because this is the original boyfriend of .

I'm actually so glad you asked .

Um I purchased my husband at Asia Dy's RSI got the six ft starter pack .

Um He came like this with his own set of chopsticks as well as a katana .

We fit a new height in clout chasing and I can't wait till shame becomes mainstream because this ain't the great challenge or pop and tide parts .

This is a social media spit in the face of loving v Virginia Pokemon .

This was more than a movie .

You know , it was the first union between an interracial couple in 16 14 in the United States .

Soon as the yanks catch win the dot The law to ban interracial marriages was not long thereafter .

And the idea of black men marrying white women was worse than the bogeyman for white American men before the civil war .

This rhetoric manifests itself in movies like birth of a nation and it still persists in people's minds to this day .

But white men on the other hand , historically have consorted with black female slaves extra a so much so that they had a whole name for it .

Children of the plantation , not Children of the corn , Children of the plants where black women would birth Children for their white slave masters .

But due to the one drop rule , they never were able to access whiteness in fact , most times they were discarded by their white fathers but don't forget no black men .

That's the dead beats now .

And interracial marriages were legalized .

The first to be married was a professor named William Allen and his student Mary King .

But you all know that even though it's legal , it don't mean a thing to the yanks them .

You think they can , will he barely escape getting high like a Christmas ornament .

Even your boy Lincoln .

You know , the one y'all is be simp over over there in the States .

I am not , nor ever have I been in favor of making voters or jurors of Negroes , nor of qualifying them to hold office nor to intermarry with white people .

I , as much as any man , I'm in favor of the superior position assigned to the white race .

This your boy , this a even long after interracial unions were legal .

Things were still pretty bad in the Heartland .

Sammy Davis Junior married Kim Novak and this might get more tomatoes and apple and lettuce throw at him than the cast of veggie tails .

He was getting so much hate so much flock that he had to marry a whole black woman .

You do the work for them .

It's ok to like make jokes and stuff like sure , whatever .

But sometimes times when it gets to be too loud and you end up sort of towing this weird line of doing the exact same thing that people on like the far right are doing where they don't want , they don't want people to mix the group of people against race , mixing are not progressive people .

They are the very people that malign minorities are our enemies of progress .

So I ask you , who do you want to be associated with ?

Because I don't want to be associated with the Nazis .

And that's why I had to account for my biases against interracial couples as well .

And if you want to learn more about the dynamics discussed here , tap on any one of them videos and let them know the foreign cen you and I are watching the Nebula Cuts .