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The reason young men flock to alt right M R A movements like deflated split word most women are , are are at their peak attraction , let's say in their early twenties or this misogynistic mickey mouse don't sleep around casually .
It's because the left gives brand dead advice to young men .
My big and be man .
You know , I took that personally , I got me sweating in here man .
No , and I put on our best Sigma faces to bring you a crash course on how to man like a leftist .
On the first lesson is what not to do , which is fall down this alpha male man hole .
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Monogamy is not natural to alpha males .
This is none other than Doctor Umar , the party of Pan Africanism , the hotep aficionado and a crushing hypocrite .
You're probably wondering how we got to this .
The taint of takes .
Well , first we have to go back to the beginning because we have more than one wife .
So this is Charlemagne , the God host of the breakfast club .
I never oh OK .
But I will have two queens .
All right .
So is polygamy more realistic ?
I think we have to understand that monogamy is not natural to alpha males .
This is not now that is a rare Charlemagne dure deal .
This is not only , this is not only true amongst human beings , even within the animal kingdom .
The alphas tend to have more than one spouse .
And if you also look at women as much as they may chide polygyny , many women will date an alpha male with another woman .
If she's attracted to him , just look at the amount of women who date married men .
But at the same time , say they're against plural marriage .
Whenever whenever a dude quotes the animal kingdom , when he's talking about sex , that dude's , he said that dude's fucking at the end , I thought he was gonna say that dude's insane .
The original study done by the scientist who was like following these groups of wolves , all of these like notions about what it means to be an alpha to be the one who can like dominate and then become the leader of the tribe or whatever came out and said like , yeah , it's not , it's not actually like , don't you guys are taking this way too seriously ?
Like it's not , it's not a real like thing .
But beyond the fallacy of alpha male science , if you have to say that you are alpha , chances are you ain't .
But what is also so tragic .
Is Umar makes the claim that monogamy isn't natural and if he left it right there , we may have possibly been in agreement .
If you've watched my last video on divorcing patriarchy from marriage , then you would understand my sentiments as a married man .
But the way coupling is understood in contemporary society is all in order to bolster patriarchy .
Umar then goes on to make the claim that women accept polygyny .
So long as it's with an alpha , then goes on to justify this claim by claiming that women are fine with dating married men , however , they are against plural marriage .
First off , I don't know what statistics this man citing because it sounds purely anecdotal .
Secondly , um is actually reciting a particular pin point that goes back for eons in the incel community .
The idea that the majority of eligible partners are interested in an oligarchy of patriarchy and this oligarchy is comprised of men that perform patriarchy the best and the award for the best patriarchy performance goes to Tyrone .
Thank you .
Thank you very much .
And the hard truth is that they're right .
However , it's not the full story .
Yes , there are fans that are interested in hyper gamy .
There will be women in this binary that are willing to be with a married man , but grudgingly if he performs patriarchy .
Well , however , that is not representative of the entirety of the dating pool .
We no longer live in a world where women are scarce and you are at risk of your lineage not being able to be carried out .
But at the same time , there are fes that you will not be able to gain access to .
It hurts , but we have to get over it .
Just like those very fes are not able to gain access to every desirable partner that they wish .
And outside that binary , the same thing exists for N BS and people that do not abide by the gender spectrum .
But there's this idea that women have it way easier way earlier due to the way that society values women .
And that misconception is spouted by our favorite top G .
The traditional life path of , of a female is to all of my and non fem presenting folk them .
Listen to me if you call a fam , a female , wrap it up , calling a fe a female is the quickest way to dry them out like the Sahara .
It's the quickest way to self report .
When you call a fam , a female , it's like fem repellent .
She's 17 , she's 18 , she's 19 and her value is massively inflated and I don't blame her .
Of course , it's massively inflated .
Imagine being 19 years old have achieved exactly zero in your life that knowing nothing you put makeup on and , and sports stars , billionaires , actors , the most important famous people on the planet , the richest man on the planet are begging for your attention , the ego , you're gonna develop .
Let us all be honest , right ?
The ego you're developing is gonna be monumental .
I'm special .
I'm so gorgeous .
All this .
And then what happens as they grow older as new generations come along because the truth is most women are at their peak attraction , let's say in their early twenties as they grow older , what they , what women become is far more fearful of competition .
This is why you'll see a woman who's a bit go oh , you know , I really want my dog to be there .
What she's scared of is her dude getting a 21 year old middle schooler , misogyny .
You put on your makeup and then you go out and you get your ego off inflated up even though you're not even that cute .
The assumption that that value means two different things in this context , right ?
It means value for a woman is being hot .
Value for men is being successful in their career .
And that right there already , you're starting with a premise that is flawed .
Patriarchy makes it mandatory obligatory that fes are romantically involved .
And when they are not , they are sanctioned either socially financially in many different ways , exiled from society .
And this is a social phenomenon that hurts all of the genders by the way .
I mean , ace and a people they can't even , they ain't even patriarchy .
Don't even recognize that folks that ain't coloring in between the lines of patriarchy it hates dot Don't listen to me , listen to NBA and B at dot I , I should probably just start off by saying this .
No offense .
I am repulsed by men .
I'm not gonna lie .
Like , and it's just so funny because it's like throughout my entire like career of being on tiktok , I always say , oh he gay , he gay , he gay .
I don't like man , bro .
Like I literally don't like man .
Like I , I haven't liked mine from the stock but it don't matter .
It does not matter because if I say , hey , I think we shouldn't like beat up gals , this *** , this *** like taking him out .
You're incurring homophobia , not even like it's not even fair because like literally , I don't like , like I don't like mine .
Like I'm not even lying , bro .
I don't , I don't , but it doesn't matter because I exist outside of the binary already .
And even if I didn't , even if I was just like a straight guy , they would still say I like man , we have this urge to categorize people and put them into schemas so that we could better make sense of the world .
We're constantly made uncomfortable with people disobeying the gender spectrum .
People like M G and for those of us that exist in those binaries , like we are pressured to conform to patriarch , the patriarchal pressure to find a mate .
And if you don't find a mate , then your value decreases as a , as like human .
There's a moralistic element where once you hit 30 and you haven't settled down because the expectation was you'd be settling down at the ages .
He's talking about of like 17 , 18 , 19 , then you're a failure and there's something wrong with you .
Um And the reason that that was the expectation is that financial aspect of it , of literally not being able to work and not being and being stigmatized to work .
So once you set it up all this way and then it comes back around and , and it's , this is the result and you're still expecting that and you're like , oh , people aren't wanting to do that anymore because it's legal for women to go outside .
No , yet the men that are radicalized in these moosic spaces believe that women benefit more under patriarchy than themselves that all they have to do is exist and they are adorned with aeration and resources .
When in fact , Fes feel similar feelings of disenfranchisement and inadequacy .
Imagine growing up in an I G reality , seeing fellow fess airbrushed a bits , their breasts and butts augmented or I don't know , attenuated , whatever it is just to fit the beauty standards , white supremacist beauty standards are about , think about the films that don't fit that mold .
They are rendered invisible at best or at worst , they're actively marginalized .
I'm thinking of folks like critic who has had to endure countless bouts of hateful comments disguised as meaningful and genuine concerns for her .
Well being or my dear friend Jessie , who regularly gets deemed to be a groomer simply for existing .
But even so the people that get it the worst will always be black films because black films are deprived of the ability to even begin to think to reach the white femininity ideal that is steeped in anti blackness , black womanhood , in a white supremacist society will always be tantamount to masculinity .
Then there's , of course , the tangible dangers for anyone that presents their gender and expresses it in a way that is contrary to the mainstream , like M J sorry to keep picking on you .
And if I do go out , I have to be careful because it only takes one drunk bohemian guy to see me and then clock me as being gay and then say , well , I gotta take so it's like I gotta be careful cause it's like I might , I might wanna , you know , dress up in a certain kind of way , but it's the way that a guy might side .
I it just like , bro , I'm in a dangerous spot .
Let me go on .
Of course , being queer in a country like this is gonna be pretty bad , right ?
But for me , I could turn off my queen and then just like , you know , is going on .
But then other people like I know some guys like the way that they speak , like they can't just stop talking in like a feminine way and like I know some girls , it's like they don't wanna dress in a feminine way and they aren't gonna like , try to even change that .
And so they have to deal with that kind of stuff like all the time , like constant pushback .
Like , oh , why are you talking like that ?
Why are you dressed like that ?
And for them , I feel really bad for people who have like a lot of gender dysphoria because you would get it horrible at all because nobody is gonna look at you for example , if you're a trans woman and if you still appear like masculine or whatever , nobody is gonna Yeah , nobody's gonna like , no , I remember actually one of the first times when I realized that I really like being called .
They , I was in a Wendy's line and I had on a bone and it was kind of dark and the lady she was like , oh , can you give them their receipt ?
And I was like , I like them .
Yeah , because like , I guess she couldn't tell if I was like a guy or a girl .
So she said they because normally they wouldn't say they right .
They say , oh , but she literally couldn't tell .
And I was like , I like that .
I like that .
I like that a lot to say my brothers in Christ , my mosque presenting folk them don't assume that you ain't good enough for because it's a self fulfilling process prophecy that makes you not good enough for God do whatever you need to do in order to feel worthy of affection , whatever self aggrandizing rituals you have so long as they don't encroach on the freedom of actual people , please .
I shouldn't have to say it out for me .
It's going to the gym , getting a haircut , getting my nails done onto this treasure trove of misogyny and gramm errors that I found .
Why is it a , why is it monkey ?
Why is it , why is it the planet of the Apes ?
Is that the new like Patrick Bateman ?
To me , he's just a monkey .
If you could just put like a hippopotamus there and be like , don't let him , don't let them take custody of the kids fight , fight in that those courts .
Wait , wait .
Isn't the account like all , all those I have more of them too and it's just , it's just the monkey .
It's just the C G I S monkey withhold your uh your adsense money from the planet of the Apes clips that you're making withhold it .
That's fine .
Women taking your money , youtube copyright taking your money arguably worth .
There's really no commentary to be hard here is there , this is just a glaring example of the men's not being OK because why the irrational fear of the films taking you for whatever you have .
It's giving very much pearl to pick me .
You know , the old was talking about how the 50 year old dad got divorced and left with nothing .
Not even laughed on guys , commit suicide because think about , think about put yourself in those guys shoes .
You worked for 2030 years , you're still young .
You lost everything tomorrow .
You could , you could still build it back , right ?
But I'm saying this guy is 55 .
His wife leaves him if , if he has Children that are still under the age of 18 , she takes the kids and she is paid to take them and give him less time and then he has to start from scratch .
It's very deceptive .
This , these talking points are very deceptive because on the one hand , yes , divorce courts tend to favor giving custody to the mother .
However , the big , the big caveat is , is why , why is that the case ?
The the question is never asked , it never even considered why that could be the case .
The specifics of that case , we have no idea if he was an abuser , it's , you have to really pay attention because they're touchy because they'll , they'll use them for the end goal of saying this man has been maligned here and this is what men face when they enter relationships .
Listen man , things like this is pissing me off .
You know how many beautiful films I know personally right now that I can call that dealing with broke man .
I talking about so broke , irrevocably broke and it's OK to be broke .
I I don't understand why in a very voracious and rapacious capitalist society that calling people broke is a joke .
But trust me , there are a lot of fans with men without means .
I'm telling you right now .
But more than you believe , I know fans that are providing the funds .
Yeah , they only bringing something to the table .
They bring in the whole table on the silverware on the bacon .
Which is why there are so many reactionary social movements like black girls in luxury or soft girl era or you know the stay at home girlfriend trend all these different ways .
It's just repackaging capitalism .
I think I could do a whole video on it .
But this talking point that I hear from a lot of them they're talking about oh you know y'all out here trying to go dig and they trying to , you know , take us for a meal ticket and X Y and Z that is not representative of the entirety of the dating board .
I have to keep on saying this , this sound like a chorus .
Don't sleep around casually .
Well , why not ?
It's like why can't sex just be casual and fun ?
It's like , well , it's too , you can't divorce it from the rest of life .
Like let's say you try to divorce your sexual conduct from your emotional life .
Well , ok , if you do that 500 times , what sort of person are you ?
It's a vice like , yeah , well , it starts to violate the reciprocity arrangement with other people .
It's like , well , we can just use each other for sexual pleasure .
It's like , well , no , you lose , yeah .
You bet , you bet , you lose something .
Every time you have sex you lose a centimeter off your penis .
If you have sex too many times it's gone .
You , you , you lose for women it's a year off the life or it's 10 years , I think , because you don't wanna have , like , that'd be like 50 times , 50 partners .
Oh my God .
Are you serious ?
That's like , that's the whole village at that point .
Ethan from H three says it's a vice .
And when you talk about someone having sex 500 times depending on the span of time , that could be like , that's possible .
That could be like a sex addiction .
But Jordan is not talking about that .
You know , Jordan's talking about casual sex .
He's talking about the moral of casual sex and that it is immoral because of some , some things , this is basically a blatant appeal to control Fams bodies even more than we unfortunately already do with the passing and overturning of things like Roe V Wade .
If you follow in my Twitter or my tiktok , you already know what I about to say .
Listen , sex is great .
Don't let these fellas that they ain't getting no bread .
Tell you that sex ain't great that you can be having no sex is great .
Bust some nuts .
You know , hey , because guess what , when you're dead and gone and all them people that was you talking about , you shouldn't have sex too much and all them nuts that you didn't get the bus that's on you .
So don't deprive yourself of the conquest of flesh just because you're scared of what people think as long as it's safe and consensual .
How about it ?
And on the other hand , for my mom , I'm out there , listen , we need to start actually enjoying sex .
You know , like for real , man , all these rap songs , I hear that talk about sex .
It's very violent , it's giving abuse and that's because it's more about power than pleasure or love making .
And this is due to how we were socialized and engendering a particular relationship that men have with sex , men being socialized to view sex as like a foundational part of who they are a foundational part of their value .
The value isn't to be their ability to satisfy their partner or to be a lover .
It's to , to have to hook up .
That's where the values drives in terms of the sort of traditional masculinity because it's , it's a form of power .
The state of dating and coupling is in desperate need of a disruption .
And it has been for generations .
This is not unique to us .
There's been gender wars going on at nauseum , but we desperately need more empathy for other genders because we always thinking that they got it better than us that the grass grow you know , on the other side , because that perspective is how you get people out there enjoying to see beautiful people in pain and misery like themselves .
Like this video from Griffin mine .
But dating food guys , I don't know how I always end up in the exact same situation .
It's always the same thing .
They're not in a place where they are looking for a relationship , they have other things that are more important .
And I'm just like , I women have been fed a lie just as much as men have when it comes to how we should operate in the world .
Men hit 18 and they immediately understand that their value is low because the world reflects that they get out into the world and get very few results .
Women hit 18 and they immediately get tons of results and have tons of options .
But then they have to face the harsh reality later in life once they hit the so-called wall , which is usually anywhere between like 28 all the way .
It's like 35 .
But when women face reality a lot of the times it's too late and they can't really do anything about it .
It's just another reason why everyone needs to hear this information so we can build a happier healthier society .
My course , they love it .
They love it so much like you would cry because she's beautiful .
She's a beautiful , she's a cute girl and so she's , they're like , yes , finally you're experiencing what it's like to be me .
I love when you cry , I love when you have , you have negative interactions with men because that means you're even more likely to say yes to my little gobbling ass .
This conclusion about building a better society like you , you're right that by my course , 100% that's the foundation of the grift but also build a better society .
In this case means mandate girlfriends .
It means it means you like women aren't providing and they need to provide because men are not getting it .
So we need to like that's the , that's the only conclusion to this situation .
They need to understand this so that they can be more humble and accept whatever offer they get when they're 18 .
Um So that's the first issue .
That's the first of my issues with this video .
The second is again the nebulous concept of value .
He said that men turn 18 and they know they have no value .
Well , in what sense like I , when I was 18 , I thought I was the , I thought I was the shit .
I thought I was man , man .
The self help side of social media needs help because the type of help that they say that they provide is built on a very rickety premise .
Let me put it to you plainly , all dating advice is bullshit .
There's no set of words , no amount of risks .
I can't believe .
I just said that that will get you whomever you desire these people just peddling patriarchy , misogyny and white supremacy disguised as causes and they're extremely irresponsible for doing so .
The truth is that people are individuals and you need to tailor your approach on a case by case basis .
But even that focus is wrong , just like the issue that I had with that tweet from earlier , the type of advice that the right likes to give , especially catered to young men is how to get girls and you're damn right .
You ain't gonna get that over here .
The mere sentence how to get girls is a self report because what do you mean by get they're not property and if you're trying to figure out different strategies , it's almost if you're trying to game them into getting them and I assume that you mean getting sex from them , doesn't that sound like a little bit more coercive ?
You don't get girls because they're not property , at least anymore , you have to treat people like people .
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My gender expression is something that needs to be put into a book because I don't even know what's going on at this point .
But just to be general , like even as a very , very young child , I never truly identified with how men would act like I never did like I always would see like men doing manly things and I'd be like , I , I mean , that's cool , I guess , but whatever , right ?
And then it's like I was just OK with being me , right ?
And something else that I've noticed too is that I was always in uh proximity to women .
And so I grew to like learn their um their experience , like their fears and things that they would go through .
And that had an effect on me to where basically I was between these two spaces where I am in the space of men , but I don't really identify with them .
But then I'm also in the space of woman , but I don't get treated like one .
So here I am existing as this person who can kind of dip into both spaces and that's basically my identity kind of .