So today I have decided to speak about a phobia that most people struggle with .
And that's Glossop phobia .
Do you know what that means ?
Well , that is the name for the most dreaded fear of public speaking , not just you , but many other people including me have been victims to stage fright or at least most of us have been super nervous before facing an audience .
What do you think ?
Ok , because you've clicked on this video , I'm pretty sure that you know how badly Glossop phobia can affect your performance .
But do you know that you're not alone in this ?
That's right .
Like I said earlier , I've been a victim to stage fear and I have frozen before an audience and that instilled such a great fear of public speaking in me that the first time I shot a video on skilled for you , I felt that I would not be able to complete it .
Apart from me , there are famous actors such as Nicole Kidman , politicians like Abraham Lincoln , and even leaders of the nation like Gandhiji who dreaded speaking before an audience .
So this means that you're not alone , right ?
So basically this is an evidence that even famous people or successful people battle with Glossop phobia .
So based on personal experiences , there are some tried and tested techniques that can help you overcome the fear of speaking in public .
My name is Michelle and you're watching skilled , the place to learn skills for the real world .
So today , let's take a few steps together to overcome Glossop phobia .
For this .
You need to concentrate on your breathing because that has the capacity to calm you down .
So when you're too nervous and you have excessive adrenaline rushing through your veins , that is what leads you to breathe rapidly and breathing rapidly as you know causes anxiety , which causes your performance to go really bad .
So the technique is that you should start focusing on your breathing to stay calm before your performance .
I would suggest that you start your speech .
Before you start your speech , you breathe in and breathe out at least 10 times .
This will help you slow down the adrenaline rush , reduce your heart rate , reduce anxiety and calm you down .
And I think this technique is quite doable .
It's quite easy .
You don't need any equipment for this .
You just need to breathe in , breathe out and relax your mind , ok .
Apart from breathing in and breathing out , there's another thing that you can do to calm yourself , which is you should start imagining a positive outcome of your speech as you do this , you will get into the right and confident frame of mind about the speech that you're going to deliver .
So step one is reduce anxiety , increase confidence .
I'm going to share with you a golden strategy to overcome Glossop phobia .
I'm sure that there are many experts who would vouch for this strategy .
And that is the most powerful tool for a good speeches .
That's right .
Not only will this help you create an impact , but it will also help you master your anxiety that is generated during the speech .
Because when you speak at a graduate pace , when you're slow , you're gradual .
This means that you get time to think , right ?
This is a secret that I have used for many years .
And as you can see that when I speak , I often pause .
That's right in order to create an impact , and I want to give you the time to absorb the information that I'm giving .
Otherwise it will be an information overload and you will lose the connect with me and obviously pausing , helps me collect my own thoughts .
So pausing is helpful in every way it's a win-win situation for you and also for your audience .
Now , this is an art that you can learn with practice .
So let's practice it now .
You can see a piece of text on the screen right here .
I would like you to read this just as it is , pause , the video , take about 30 seconds to read this and then play the video again .
Here you go .
Well , I hope you were able to use 30 seconds to read out this text .
Did you feel that something was missing over there ?
That you were not absolutely right in your pace ?
Maybe you were going a bit too fast .
You did not know where to pause .
Well , you're absolutely right .
What was missing in this text ?
Can you tell me it was the punctuation .
There were no full stops and there were no commerce .
That's why when you were reading the text out , you sounded so dull and drab as you were missing all the pauses because the punctuation was absent throughout this text .
So now , what do we understand ?
We understand that it is important that you should use punctuation while preparing your script and pauses while you're speaking .
Now , we have the same text on the screen right here .
But this time with the punctuation marks and I'm going to read it with the punctuation pausing for a shorter duration at the commas and I'll pause for a longer duration at the full stops .
So basically you have to listen to me carefully and then try it yourself by pausing at the right place for the right amount of time .
So let's begin .
Public speaking .
Anxiety is something that has affected all of us to some extent .
In fact , I believe that Mark Twain was right when he said there are two types of speakers , those who are nervous and those who are liars .
Well , I completely agree with what Mr Twain has said .
And I hope that this time you actually were able to notice the impact that pausing correctly can create on your talk .
So this means you must use the powerful tool of pausing in order to create an impact through your speech .
There is one technique that has worked very well for me and that is giving my speech to another person .
There are actually many people around you that you can give your speech to .
You can do it with your husband or your wife , with your friend , uh with your parents , um with your sister , your brother , your daughter , not that one actually , but all the other right ?
You can deliver your speech to them .
And the best part is speaking in front of another person will help you relax .
And on top of that , it will give you experience in the sense that if the people listening to you have any questions about your speech , it is a high possibility that the audience will also have similar questions to ask you and you will be better prepared for the final presentation .
So this means that you will be better prepared for any anticipated questions or problems that might occur when you're delivering your speech .
Also , when you practice your speech with another person , remember to tell them to critique your performance honestly .
As in tell you of the good and the areas to improve .
So that you can receive a constructive feedback from them and work on it .
So this is going to allow you to improve your final performance .
And this is a tip that has worked a lot for me .
So remember to rehearse in front of another person , give you another checklist and this time for practicing in front of a mirror .
Oh , hang on .
I'm assuming that you already know that you should either practice in front of a mirror or record yourself on your cell phone to improve your delivery .
Well , this is a mandatory step to create an impact with your speech .
So when you're going to rehearse in front of the mirror , you should pay attention to a few factors .
The first is your facial expressions .
If your expressions don't support your words , it seems that your speech is memorized , you have just learned it by heart and you're reading it out , that's it .
So make sure that you're , you're expressive , not just with your words , but also with your face .
And when it comes to facial expressions , a smile is mandatory .
It should be there throughout your speech , not just to appear confident , but also to calm your nerves .
It's actually scientifically proven that smiling reduces anxiety .
So you should be careful of your facial expressions and be sure to smile .
All right .
Now , the second thing that you should be careful about when you're practicing in front of the mirror , you should look at your gestures .
I mean , your body movement the way you move your hands , are you flinging them with no purpose ?
Are you slouching while speaking ?
Are your shoulders too stiff and unnatural ?
Well , you should try to avoid such body language because that affects your performance negatively .
So , be careful of your body language as well .
Apart from facial expressions , don't just pick up any topic to talk on .
Yes , that's very , very crucial .
Don't just pick up any topic .
So I remember the time when I froze on stage and the main reason behind it was that I had to speak on social media , which was not a topic so close to my heart because I'm not a person who uses social media regularly and I had to speak about the ne negative impact of social media on people's lives and how it is making people's lives better and so on .
And darn I ran out of I , I was looking for words and there was this huge crowd waiting for me to continue .
I know that you can resonate with me here .
That was a very nerve wracking moment for me .
So based on my own experience , I would suggest that you should pick a subject that you really care about .
Well , I have a checklist for you that will help you decide whether you want to speak on a topic or not .
So before you decide your topic , ask yourself three questions , the first one is , does this subject have an impact on me .
Second should be , do I want to share on this topic with other people ?
Third , will people really benefit from my knowledge of this topic ?
So these are the three questions that you should answer before you decide to speak on a topic .
So now you have a checklist for making a decision about the topic that you're going to speak on because this decision will have a great impact on how your speech goes .
It's quite simple .
If you feel for a topic , you will definitely be in your element .
So remember to choose your topic carefully .
So let's now review the five strategies to overcome Glossop phobia to begin with .
You should know that you're not alone .
There are other people who've been victim and who are victims of stage fright second , you must learn to relax , breathe in , breathe out 10 times before you start speaking .
Imagine a positive outcome after that , choose the topic carefully .
And the fourth tip is practice in front of a mirror , paying careful attention to your facial expressions and also to your body language and lastly rehearse your speech in front of someone and don't forget to add the magical pauses that will take your speech to the next level .
So thank you so much for staying tuned with me in this whole session on skied the place to learn skills for the real world .
I'll see you soon with other interesting and useful sessions till then take care .
Bye bye .